I’m so tired of people hating on single mom’s, like its something they choose.. We’re not out here having immaculate conceptions…
For every single mum out here there’s a father somewhere reneging on his responsibilities…
If only society could use all the energy they waste criticizing single mom’s to call out those men leaving children fatherless .
But NO.. You all are busy talking about how children raised by single mom’s are troubled, not well mannered and a bunch of other nonsense. How the boy child is falling behind because they are being raised by a single mum,, what do you want her to do?The person supposed to be teaching her son to be a man decided it was an optional job.. She’s doing the best she can, teaching him what she knows…
Don’t get me started on the ‘she couldn’t keep her man crap’ what is he, a pet ?! He is a living breathing grown up who made a decision not to be a part of his child’s life.Granted relationships don’t always work but being in your child’s life is something entirely different. This applies to mom’s too,if the father of your child is a good father then don’t keep him away from them just because the two of you didn’t work.
Fact-:parenting is hard even when there are two fully present parents, children from such families go astray too.. Lets stop blaming single mom’s for every wayward child in society.
Fact:- the boy child is falling behind because some men are not taking an active part in parenting, no one is teaching the boys how to grow into responsible successful men.
Fact:- judging single mom’s isn’t helping the mother or their child with anything. It doesn’t pay bills or give them the support they so desperately need. All it does is cause undue stress to people trying to make the best out of the cards they’ve been dealt.
Fact:- There are brilliant, well mannered , intelligent children raised by single mom’s who go on to become successful up right members of society.
Im generally not a very trusting person , my motto for a long time was ‘trust no one till they give you a reason to’
That does not work well in relationships though as you have to open yourself up to let the other person in.Vulnerability is often a high price to pay especially if you have been burnt before.
The reward though when you experience an amazing connection and fall in love is well worth it. Its a world full of rainbows and butterflies one can only understand it through experience.
The true test comes when life keeps throwing surprises at you. Sometimes they’re good which just goes to increase the love, but sometimes they’re bad.
This is when your proclamations of love really count. When you’re character is put to test, how do you react when you’re struggling to pay bills? when you have to cut down on some luxuries?
Do you still experience the rainbows and butterflies when times are hard? That’s when ‘I will love you always, no matter what’ counts.
What do you do when ‘no matter what’ comes sooner rather than later?Do you cut your losses and run for the hills? Even fairytales had their fair share of life surprises, evil witches and all that.
Happily ever after isnt a perfect life without problems, its about fighting to keep the rainbows and butterflies even through the worst of storms.
…………my two cents ………
My head is still spinning from that conversation,I have been waking up thinking it was just my imagination running wild as usual …
Its been two weeks since you looked me in the eye and said we we’re no more…
That you did not see a future for us…I remember sitting there naively waiting to hear you out,
Happy that you finally wanted to talk,the thought of you ending things had never crossed my mind..
Sure we had some problems but which couple doesn’t?The recent financial pressure hadn’t been helping much..still I thought we were going to be fine.
We were in this for keeps,through good times and bad…
You’ve moved to a new city though and I moved to a new house,this is real..
I wake up everyday and go through the paces,my friends say I’m strong
I don’t see it though,my heart is crashed into tiny little pieces,
I don’t understand what happened,WHY it happened..
You seem like a stranger to me now and not the person who promised me forever,
All our dreams and plans for the future,gone ..
Your presence,your scent,gone…
I am left with memories that on most days I don’t know what to do with…
Was it real or make belief?
When did you decide we couldn’t work?
When did you decide you could live without me?
When will i get rid of this empty feeling you’ve left inside me?
You courted her, proposed and finally before God and man vowed to be her provider and protecter, to respect, support and love her till death do you part.
Over the years you have broken all of these vows, you have rewarded the woman who stuck by you through good and bad times with nothing but pain and heart ache.
You say you love us, that we are your blood. Do you think we fell from the sky? Have you forgotten the person who bore you three children.. There is no us without her…
Granted relationships are hard and they dnt always work. Common decency dictates tho that you respect one another, have some decorum and keep your dirty laundry to yourself.
You say she’s brainwashed us and that she wants to turn us against you. But you did that all on your own when you not only left home but also checked out of our lives. The pop in and out dsnt count, we’re not a drive through. ..
You dnt get our unconditional loyalty to her, well let me simplify it for you. You left, she stayed!She has always been there for us, even when we dnt have anything to eat or money for bills. Never did she say one bad thing about you.
Then you want to act some type of way because we know the struggles she’s had to go through to raise us and wunt let you continue to disrespect and hurt her. ..
Why do you hate the woman who has kept your home since you walked out 20 years ago. ..
Why do you hate the woman who carried your three beautiful children..
Why do you hate the woman who insisted we have to respect you because no matter what you are our father….