Is it a casualty of the 21st century?Are we so busy now working 16 hour shifts,trying to keep up with the Morgan’s,splashing our ‘perfect’ lives on social media ,envying each other,judging each other ..that it has become okay to settle for whatever comes your way just to fit into some stereotype of what a successful, happy,person is supposed to be.
We have redefined success to be something that is measured by how much material wealth someone has, never mind the fact that for most its bought on credit and might very well be the reason your children do not go to college.
Relationships are now casual hookups to be walked in and out of whenever they stop fulfilling the short term goals they we’re set up for.Marriage is no longer a lifetime commitment,people are making vows they know full well they do not intend to keep.
The reasons for getting married have also done a complete turn around,if your a woman in her thirties then there is all this pressure to get married and have children because apparently some clock is ticking.So what if you haven’t met the right person yet?Do you just marry the first man who comes your way because the clock is ticking?
A young man with a good job,a car and a house is reminded constantly that he now has to find a wife and start a family.But do these pressure givers take the time to prepare him for marriage and the responsibilities it comes with.We are so busy judging what people are doing and deciding how they should be doing it different,we forget the decisions we are forcing them to make will affect their lives forever.
Is it really worth it,to look like you have the good life when in actual sense you are knee deep in debt?
Is it that important to be in a relationship that society approves of ,that we’re okay being in loveless marriages,some filled with all kinds of abuse.
What kind of blue print are we living for our children if we bring them up in a commercialized world,where everything is at face value and very few people love or at the very least genuinely care for each other..
Nothing in this world is perfect,but that’s no excuse to settle for whatever the wind blows your way,especially if its going to define you for the rest of your life.
……………………………………….my two cents…………………………………..
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Loved this post! It touches on so many things that are present now and it makes no sense. In my opinion, settling is never okay and I am doing the best that I can to live my life at my own pace and I do better without all the judging and what I “should” be doing or where I “should” be.
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Aww thank you for taking the time read. I am doing the best i can too, I get so vexed with the short cuts people are willing to take, I dnt get it either.
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You’re quite welcome. I was delighted to read it. It’s great you’re doing the best you can. It’s pretty much all you can do to live genuinely. Short cuts always seem to be short term and who wants that when you can skip it for your own path?
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Exactly, couldn’t have said it better myself!
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